How to Write Your Wedding Vows
The essence of a wedding ceremony is the union of two hearts, bound by pledges and promises. The power of vows lies in their ability to manifest these intentions. Many people feel overwhelmed when it comes to writing wedding vows, worried about getting it ‘right’, and forget to connect with what they really want to say. My advice is to always speak from the heart and be authentic
Key Elements of Wedding Vows
As a celebrant, my greatest joy comes from witnessing couples embrace their vows and the raw emotions that accompany them. This passion for love and its expression is what drew me to this profession. I strive to help couples let their love shine brightly on their special day.
1. Speak from the Heart
Authenticity is key. Don’t say anything you’re not comfortable with, but also remember this is a unique moment to express your deepest feelings.
2. Legal Requirements
According to the Marriage Act 1961, you must say: ❝ I call upon the persons here present to witness that I, [insert name], take you [insert name], to be my lawful wedded wife/husband/partner/spouse. ❞
3. Personalise Your Vows
Beyond the legal wording, you can say anything you want. Some couples choose to say one or two lines to each other, while others surprise each other with personalised vows on the day.
Tips for Writing Your Vows
To begin crafting your vows, find a comfortable spot where you can relax and close your eyes. Grab a pen and paper, or open the notes app on your phone. Let your thoughts and feelings flow freely as you start to write.
Here are some tips to help you.:
1. Start Early: Don’t wait until the last minute. Jot down thoughts as they come to you.
2. Focus on These Key Points:
- Who do you want to be for your partner?
- What are you grateful for in this person?
- What commitments or intentions do you want to make?
3. Embrace Sentimentality: Accept the emotion of the moment. Your vows are the heart of your ceremony, so don't hold back. If you’re not comfortable saying them in public, write them in a note to give to your partner on the wedding day.
4. Include Humour: A little laughter can lighten the mood and make the moment more memorable.
5. Realistic Promises: Avoid absolutes like “always” or “never.” Focus on meaningful, realistic promises.
6. Get Inspired: Look at examples for inspiration. There are fantastic examples in Bride Magazines.
7. Avoid Repeat-After-Me: Personal vows are more intimate and meaningful than repeating after the celebrant.
8. Verbal Love Contract: Think of your vows as a public contract of your love, witnessed by all your guests.
When delivering your vows, speak slowly and clearly. Look at your partner while speaking to create a deeper connection. And, don’t be afraid to say “I love you.” It’s the most anticipated part of the vows